ABC again had a special on why successful black women are single that aired last Wednesday.

This topic has been going on for months and months, and it’s BEYOND frustrating. Media outlets make black women who are single over the age of 30 feel so bad for not being in a relationship or married.

They give us the stats saying there are more women than men, cutting down our choices. There are many black men who do not have college degrees or are in jail which makes the selection even more narrow.

In this panel discussion called “Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man?” which featured Sherri Shepherd, co-host of The View; TV/radio personality Jacque Reid; Jimi Izreal, author of The Denzel Principle; Hill Harper, actor and author; and, oh yeah, Steve Harvey.

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First of all, who picked this panel? I get the whole man vs. woman thing, but how about you show me couples who are in a successful marriage. Don’t show me the complainers (ahem, Sherri and Jacque), and you can leave the naysayers behind. Jimi Izrael just needed to get off the stage, he made about as much sense as peanuts and pickles.

Who was looking at this special? Probably successful black women and men — the same people who have been talking about it time and time again. No one new has anything to contribute. What are we supposed to do? I watched the whole special, and I became angry at times. Steve Harvey made it seem like we have to wait for men to reach their potential and blah blah blah. I blanked out.

The only person who made even a little bit of sense to me was Hill Harper. Instead of having a special called “Why Can’t a Successful Black Woman Find a Man,”  why can’t it be, “Why Can’t Successful Black Women and Men Find Each Other?” Relationships are a partnership (and this was a point that Hill Harper and Sherri Sheperd brought up), and it needs to be treated as such.

There needs to be less blame placed on what we as women are doing (or not doing). Point blank, it’s not fair. We just need to work together to be successful together. I think that’s the only thing that can work. It’s not fair to tell a woman well it’s not in our DNA to do this or that. So what? That does not mean that you can’t do certain things. Believe me, it’s not in your DNA to play Xbox all day, and you weren’t an expert when Call of Duty first came out, but now you are.

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I’m just so over this topic. Stop telling us that we can’t find a man. Why don’t you give us some solutions?

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