From Black Voices – Lauryn Hill said it best: “Miscommunication leads to complication.” Being able to verbalize your thoughts and feelings is key to any healthy relationship. However, as Ms. Hill has pointed out, words lost in translation can cause major issues in a relationship.

That’s why it’s important to express yourself as honestly and openly as possible to keep your partner from making assumptions or drawing the wrong conclusions. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being direct, as long as you’re tactful. You cannot expect a person to be clear and concise if you are not doing the same.

Some people believe that most problems occur because men and women exchange and express information and ideas differently, however I believe this is only partially true. Sure, at times it seems men speak cryptically, but the same can easily be said about women. To help you navigate the dating world a bit better, Black Voices has taken the liberty of breaking down a few commonly misunderstood phrases and expressions used my men and their female counterparts.

The Pursuit

“I’m getting really sleepy” really means:

Man – Please leave my house.
Woman- It’s not happening tonight.

“Do you just want to just stay in?” really means:

M – My funds are low right now.
W – Are you ever going to take me out?

“When can I see you again?” really means

M – I enjoy spending time with you.
W – Ask me out quick!

“What did you do today?” really means

M: Genuine concern I like her enough to ask for details.
W: Why haven’t I received a call, text, or email until now?

“You want some gum?” really means:

M – Your breath stinks.
W – Your breath really stinks.

“Who else are you dating?” really means:

M – For me to be serious, I’m going to need to know this answer.
W – Before I put myself out there, I need to know if you’re a player or a pimp.

“I’m not really looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend right now” really means:

M – I’m not that into you.
W – I’m not that into you.

Check the rest of this hilarious post at Black Voices!