The news has been dead for me in the new year. There’s nothing I’ve been passionate about; nothing’s been grabbing my attention.

Here’s one thing that has been grabbing everyone else’s attention though. It’s been all over the black blogosphere, and quite frankly I’m tired of hearing about it.

In an ABC News segment, cameras caught four career driven black women who are on the verge of being single for the rest of their lives. Think I’m over exaggerating? Think again. Watch the clip.

If you’re thinking, “Oh, my god, this is horrible! How are these women ever going to find anybody??? There are no eligible black bachelors out there.” Don’t feel bad, and don’t let ABC’s stats fool you. They’re saying there is only a pool of  54% of black men for educated black women to choose from. That is men who are college educated and have careers. We have a 1-in-12 chance of jumping the broom. Yikes.

I believe their stats are correct, and like I told you before, I’m no fancy pants numbers cruncher. However, black women (and men) have the ability of changing these stats if we want to. Let’s stop playing the blame game.

Let’s take Jekene Ashford from the special as an example. She was by far the worst offender of them all. Ashford is a chemist for a pharmaceutical company. She said she dated all kinds of men, from the unemployed to the struggling artist to the rich. What exactly is her problem?

1. She’s 5-foot-9 and wants to date someone who is at least 6-foot-3. Since that hasn’t been working out for her, she is willing to date someone who is at least her height. I’m not really sure what height has to do with anything, but for real, beggars can’t be choosers, doll.
2. She gave the story about how she was “vibing” with a Caucasian guy and he hit her with the “maybe I will see you again” when she thought he was going to ask for her number.

Now, you might not see anything wrong with that scenario, but it was loaded with stupidity. Her friends asked her why didn’t she ask for his number? Ashford just wrinkled up her nose and said, “Oh, I don’t do that.” Huh? Am I missing something?

It didn’t say how long that Ashford has been without a boyfriend, but I am assuming it is a good while. My deal with her (and this includes all the women out there who are nodding their heads at the clip or already saw this mess on TV) is if you have been doing the same thing for, let’s say, the past four years, and by that I mean, letting men pass you by or having great convo and with no end result, YOU have to be the one to change.

Forget about what Steve Harvey has to say. He’s telling black women to date gramps. Not gonna happen, Steve. We can’t be doing the same thing over and over again and expect to get different results. It’s not feasible. I know as a chemist, Ashford has some business cards. She wants everybody to know she gets paid for knowing all of the periodic table of elements. Hell, she may even be working on her Nobel Prize. All she had to say was, “Hey, enjoyed the conversation. Take my card. We can chat again sometime.” And that’s it. In this day and age, we know almost everybody has a cell phone, a Facebook page, a twitter account, a BlackBerry PIN, an iPhone, and at the very least an e-mail address. There are seven million different ways to keep in touch with someone.

And believe you me, if I was 34 and did not have any prospects, but wanted one, you best believe you will see me on Match.com. Username: Cupcakelover. Owwww.

Let’s not let this ABC special get us down. That was a trifling way to begin the new year! We need to better ourselves before we try bring someone else into our lives. Once we do that I truly believe that everything will fall into place…