I’m sure there has been a time when women and even men has sat around and wondered why do the opposite sex cheat. Based on experiences, not just mine, and my male friends input, I have came to the conclusion that men and women motives for cheating is clearly different.

I believe men cheat because of greed. They may have a girlfriend that is perfect for them but they just want more. I am not saying that all men are like this. There are some good guys out there but others want their cake and want to devour it too.  It’s like some men see something that they know they shouldn’t have but go for it anyway.

As for us women, we are more emotional. The reason could be because we don’t have the best boyfriend in the world or he’s missing something. Yes, it would be better just to give him up but no ones perfect.

When boyfriends don’t give us the attention we need or doesn’t treat us as we expect to be treated, we find someone that fills in the missing piece. It’s not being greedy because if we had a guy that completed our puzzle, we probably wouldn’t want anyone else.

Are these the reasons why men and women cheat? Or am I way off base?

Let me know.

I definitely commend our efforts in aiding Haiti and giving releif in their time of need. There are already a countless numbers of charities and foundations from Hope for Haiti Now (which raised over $50 million last Friday) to Yele Haiti to the Clinton Bush Haiti Fund.

When the earthquake hit on January 12, I was instantly bombarded with text messages telling me to text “Yele10″ to 501501 for $5. Then the day after, we were all told that if we texted “Haiti” to 90999 a $10 donation would go to the Red Cross and the charge would be placed on our next cell phone bills.

I know technology progresses in leaps and bounds each year, so in four years our technological advances have improved light years. In 2005, however, which was when Katrina broke down those levees in New Orleans, if we could text to save our favorite contestant on American Idol (where standard text messaging rates applied), why couldn’t we text to save our brothers and sisters?

This also made me wonder too… We saw the telethon for Katrina (remember Kanye’s famous “George Bush doesn’t care about black people?”), it too raised millions of dollars,  but fast forward to 2010. Things are nowhere near where they need to be.

We didn’t really help our people at all. Yes, people volunteered to build houses with Habitat for Humanity, but what’s the point of building houses when most residents didn’t come back? Housing was torn down but was never built back up in some areas. Schools closed, and hospitals never reopened. Who can live somewhere like that?

Where did the money go?

Now, we can try to make up for the emotional scarring and wrongdoing that was done in the city by helping Haiti, but how far is that money going to go?

Since Haiti was in disarray before the quake, I would have assumed that the donations brought in by Wyclef and his Yele Haiti Fund would have done wonders for the country (but with his funny money, I guess not).

I know things like this take time to rebuild, but with that amount of devastation who knows how long it will take. Will the money really go to good use this time? Or will our history of selfishness be destined to repeat itself?

Darryl Glover moved to New Jersey to be a dancer. Hip-hop was his love, and he wanted to make it happen. The commute into New York City to take classes wouldn’t be bad, and he wanted to be greater than he already was.

In reality, Glover, 24, went to New Jersey as part of the Teach for America program. Since 2007, Glover has been teaching kindergarten at the Chancellor Annex Avenue school in Newark.

He figured he could teach kids the alphabet during the day and attend dance classes at night. Just like Fame: The Newark Years.

But after nights of parent-teacher conferences, lesson plans, and going over clever ways to make his students “good scholars” (that’s what he calls them), Glover realized he didn’t have much time to dance.

When he did take the occasional class, it was centered around jazz, which Glover wasn’t even into.

One thing he did enjoy was fashion. Just like everybody else out there, he paid attention to the labels, but he wanted to be a part of something great. Since Glover was very particular in what he wore, he figured being a stylist was the perfect choice.

Everything started for him when his friend A.V. Perkins sent him a link on Craiglist for stylists for the VH1 show Glam God with Vivica A. Fox.

Having no experience, Glover made it to the semifinals (which ain’t too shabby), and it only motivated him to do more.

Styling for him is a long process. He has to create looks, or concepts, get the clothes and style the shoots. It can be very taxing on the young teacher. He books most of his gigs on the weekends since those are his free days.

“I don’t know how I balance being a teacher and styling,” he said. “I’m still trying, but teaching is what comes first.”

I was fortunate enough to watch Darryl styling a shoot, and I definietly could not do it. Surely, coming up with concepts must be hard…

“I do research after I come up with a concept, but the more I look at someone else’s work the more it becomes similar,” he said. “The industry is so small and people are talented. Nothing is original.” So Glover puts on music in his Belleville, New Jersey apartment to move him.

He still tries to make looks his own and he credits Dita Von Teese, Kanye West, and Grace Coddington, the creative director of Vogue as his influences.

Since that Glam God audition, Glover has styled for Amerie, magazines, and the Holy Grail, New York Fashion Week. Last September, he worked the shows for Oscar de la Renta, Carolina Herrera, Phillip Lim, Bagdley Mischka, and about eight other shows. Not bad for a newbie, huh?

Glover is trying to fine tune his craft. He started taking classes (when he can) at the Fashion Institute of Technology so he will receive a certificate in costuming and styling. He is learning how to sew and stitch.

With all of the good stuff that comes with styling — famous designers, celebrities — there has to be some kinds of problems.

Glover said he used to have troubles with fitting models in the beginning, but now that he is a semi-pro he has leanred from his mistakes. “I used to not have enough clothing, but you always want to make sure you have more,” he said.

“Styling is a trade. It’s a craft. How are you going to make a size 2XL fit a size zero?” So now on every shoot, he is armed with his fit kit that comprises of cotton (to stuff bras, of course), wet wipes, binder clips, pins, double stick tape, a petticoat (to make skirts and dresses fuller), a steamer, among other things.

“Now it’s pretty smooth.”

What’s next on Glover’s list? Teach for America might send him to Japan to teach English. He’s looking at it as a great opportunity to learn about Japanese culture. They’re hot over there. In the meantime, he is also trying to make the move into Manhattan to make it easier for styling.

He hopes one day to break into wardrobe and costuming for television and movies. But as far as becoming the next Rachel Zoe, not so much. “I love Rachel Zoe, and I love that she has authority,” he said, “but I don’t know if I want to be Darryl G. the stylist. I know there’s more.”

And I can’t wait to see what he’ll do next.

(Photos from Darryl G’s facebook page)