Of all the goals I want to achieve in my life, understanding guys probably won’t be one of them. Yes, women are complicated but men are confusing. It’s either most men find it hard to speak up or just don’t have anything to say. Well according to match.com on yahoo, men give women lines that mean something different; usually representing what they really want to say. Some of them I agree on and others are just ridiculous. Why can’t all men just speak up? What makes you think women have time to read between the lines?

Anyways, here are 5 lines men use and what they really mean.

1) When he says: I like your shoes.

He means: I really like you.

Really? Fellas, I hope you don’t actually used this line. It’s a little high schoolish.

2) When he says: Maybe we should take some time off from each other — you know, take a break.

He means: Maybe I’m better off keeping my options open.

I completely believe this line because ladies use it too.

3) When he says: We should hang out some time.

He means: I don’t want to flat-out ask you on a date and risk rejection, so first I’m going to gauge your interest.

Understandable…enough said.

4) When he says: I think I’m falling in love with you.

He means: I am this close to saying the L-word, but I can’t bring myself to say it just yet and when I do say it, I want to be sure you’ll say it back.

So, what if for some reason you don’t end up saying it? You just got the poor girl hopes up. This line can be just as dangerous as saying the L-word.

5) When he says: You’re just too good for me.

He means: I need out of this relationship.

She’s too good for you? What do guys want; the lowest of the low? Let’s be real, thats not why your breaking up with her and she probably see right through that.

Here’s a tip guys, just be gentle and honest at all times. And ladies, watch out for these lines.

Breakups can be beyond tough — heartbreaking and heartwrenching, even. We can’t dwell on the past because that will opnly make us hurt more. Here’s some helpful tips to make it a speedy recovery.

1. Delete him from your life. It may sound harsh, but it needs to be done. Erase his contact info, including his phone number, e-mail address, Facebook, stop following him on Twitter — all of that. Block him if you have to. As women, we’re so easy to forgive and be understanding, but you broke up for a reason. You can’t get rid of your past if he’s still in your present. It will be really hard, but practice some restraint and willpower. It will get easier as time goes on.

2. Get your life back. Do the things you used to do before you got together. Everyone loses a bit of themselves when they’re in the wrong relationship. We sacrifice the things that we used to hoping to make new sacrifices together. Since that didn’t work, try going out the club with your girls or have an exciting night out.

3. Take time to know who you truly are. Go on vacay by yourself. It doesn’t have to be anywhere far if you don’t want to, and it can be just for a weekend. If that might be too much for you, try making a day for yourself. Go to the spa — treat yourself. Try meditating. Cut yourself off from the rest of the world for a bit (i.e. no cell phones!). This way you have time to reflect on what you want in a relationship and who you will and will not deal with for the next relationship.

From Black Voices – Lauryn Hill said it best: “Miscommunication leads to complication.” Being able to verbalize your thoughts and feelings is key to any healthy relationship. However, as Ms. Hill has pointed out, words lost in translation can cause major issues in a relationship. Read the rest of this entry »

Alicia Keys and her fiance, Swizz Beatz, went to South Africa to get their soon to be marriage and their unborn baby blessed, according to gossiponthis.com.  The couple decided to have a Zulu ceremony to prepare for their new life. Read the rest of this entry »

I’m sure there has been a time when women and even men has sat around and wondered why do the opposite sex cheat. Based on experiences, not just mine, and my male friends input, I have came to the conclusion that men and women motives for cheating is clearly different.

I believe men cheat because of greed. They may have a girlfriend that is perfect for them but they just want more. I am not saying that all men are like this. There are some good guys out there but others want their cake and want to devour it too.  It’s like some men see something that they know they shouldn’t have but go for it anyway.

As for us women, we are more emotional. The reason could be because we don’t have the best boyfriend in the world or he’s missing something. Yes, it would be better just to give him up but no ones perfect.

When boyfriends don’t give us the attention we need or doesn’t treat us as we expect to be treated, we find someone that fills in the missing piece. It’s not being greedy because if we had a guy that completed our puzzle, we probably wouldn’t want anyone else.

Are these the reasons why men and women cheat? Or am I way off base?

Let me know.